• Like all Observers, you strive to find inner peace in a world that's anything but peaceful.
  You were born with a quiet, cautious, and down-to-earth nature has always set you apart. You've become selective about what you do and say. So you typically stand back and observe people and situations, then decide how you want to contribute.
• This style has been especially useful in your career. While others on a team are talking, arguing, and often making impulsive decisions, you can see the underlying issues and make practical and realistic recommendations. Although there are times in your job and personal life when you should assert yourself more, people are relieved to find someone like you who doesn't pick fights or create drama.
• You don't spend your life running around from one social event to the next. You prefer quiet evenings with your close circle of family and friends. You're somewhat "old fashioned" in that way. Since you're shy and very modest, it can also take a while to get to know you and see the "real" you.
• You need time alone every day to "recharge" mentally and emotionally. Enjoying your own company and being comfortable with solitude is considered a sign of maturity and good mental health.

• Finding your love is like finding the other part of yourself that makes you complete.
  For you, falling in love is like being reunited with the other part of yourself that finally gives meaning to everything in your life. This "soul mate" completes you. You empower each other to be the best you can be. You get each other's jokes and love the same books and movies. You enjoy an intimacy that most people can't even imagine.
• The downside of the Destined love style is that you typically have to search for years and years to find this type of love. Destiny is on your side, but doesn't always follow your timeline. Given how hard it is to find a potential soul mate, it's easy to understand why you would take it so seriously. Just don't forget the equally silly and sexy aspects of love.
• Your approach to love can change over time. You may go through periods when you need a more casual love style, especially after a painful breakup with a potential soul mate. For now, the common features of your love "style" include:
  You're looking for a very close, intimate relationship. You want to share the most important aspects of your life with her and not feel like you have to hold things back. If you love her, you'll want to know about her hopes and dreams and try to help make them come true.
• You're most likely to fall in love with a woman who is independent by nature. She won't expect to merge her life with yours. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give you more to talk about when you're together.
• Like the song says, "If you want to know if she loves you so, it's in her kiss." You want passionate kisses and won't settle for anything less. The two of you will probably be instantly attracted to each other. Sexual chemistry isn't everything, but it's a great way to connect body and soul with your partner.
• Both partners have to decide when they're ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of you have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given your feelings and how long you've been together.

• Our culture is very biased against shy, introverted, or quiet people. As a reaction, Observers often either over-protect or under-protect themselves.
  In other cases, you may under-protect yourself by staying too busy, rarely spending time alone, or never turning down an invitation. To stop over-doing it, you have to set some clear rules to live by, such as scheduling mandatory time each day to be by yourself, relax, and recharge your emotions.
• Getting close to other people is difficult. People are wary about letting others into their lives. You're especially sensitive to the walls people put up around themselves. You worry that they don't really love you or that they will leave you.
• You're easily embarrassed in public. At social events, it probably feels like a big spotlight is pointing down at you and everyone is watching. The key is realizing that this perception is not a reality. Most of the time, no one is watching, and no one cares what you say or do. You have to consciously remind yourself that you have nothing to be ashamed of and focus on the positive reactions you receive from other people.
• You need motivation and direction. You have tons to offer to the world, but could use a kick-start sometime to get going. Try to jump on any interests you have and run with it.

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